Tokens of Affection

The following illustrates the change in tokens of affection as my marriage has matured.  For other married readers, perhaps you see some similarities, or maybe you don't...
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Engaged ------------------- Tickets to a Broadway show

Newlyweds ---------------- Sapphire bracelet

1st Yr. of Marriage ------  Romantic weekend in Vermont

3rd Yr. of Marriage -----  Dinner at a chain sit-down restaurant and a movie at the theater

7th Yr. of Marriage ------ Carryout from a chain restaurant and watching a movie at home

10+ Years of Marriage -- Me scraping dog poop off of the Mrs. sneakers. 

Over thirteen years of marriage, and we have no complaints at all.

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Update: After reading the comments, I wanted to clarify that though my anniversary was a few weeks ago, the above list of gifts is not entirely related to our anniversary.  With the post, I wanted to show how our appreciation of and desire for tokens of affection has changed over the years, and not to illustrate how I have become a cheap-skate with the Mrs.

Though it helps that we both are frugal folks.     

43 comments:

joanny said...

Its gets even better, as long as the two work together as ONE...

Is it your anniversary? If so, many wishes to enjoy many more years together in wedded bliss.

Cheers,
Joanny

Z Joya said...

another blessed married man. your post inspired me. thanks!

ladyfi said...

Thanks for the laugh. And congrats on 13 years!

Elena said...

Yup, that sounds about right ;)

Ryan Tyler said...

Very funny!

As for my wife and me. I don't recall an engagement celebration. For our marriage, we went out to a nice restaurant. First anniversary is coming up. Maybe going to a concert and a nice meal.

CL Beck, author said...

Very funny post. Hope you and the Mrs. have many more years to celebrate together!

(Oh, and thanks for stopping by my blog and commenting on the Halloween 5K. Good thing I didn't accidentally knock the cop over, huh? :)

Matthew Rush said...

Kelly and I have been together for over 14 years, but we're not actually married. Nonetheless, this all still fits. Glad to know you've found contentedness Slam.

kcinnova said...

Happy anniversary!

I'm still working (or rather, it's been set aside now for some time) on my husband's 10th anniversary gift. It's already 13 years late! Maybe I'll finish it for our 25th?

Bob G. said...

Slamdunk:
Okay, so how long were you peeping in our windows?
LMAO!
That is TOO true...!

The missus and I also celebrated 13 years back in June...great minds wed alike, I suppose.

Great post!

Meadowlark said...

For our 10th, the husband gave me a tactical thigh holster. Which conveniently fit him ;)

Surprisingly, we celebrated our 25th a couple of months ago!

Congrats!!!

Travel Nurse Extraordinaire said...

I honestly believe that the key to happiness is finding joy in the simple things. Happy Anniversary!

Tamika: said...

Congratulations on a timeless love! My husband and I will celebrate 7 years next week! And it just makes me happy to have him by my side.

I look less and less for the materialistic tokens of love. When he offers to cook dinner because he notices my pregnant swollen feet, I know that God has brought us a mighty long way!

RD said...

My most romantic anniversary moment was to stay home with my wife with two small children with the stomach flu, each of us holding a child as the vomited simultaneously.

Seriously.

Mommy Lisa said...

My husband complained about my complaining - said I was not happy ever. I told him there are VERY SIMPLE THINGS YOU CAN DO TO MAKE ME HAPPY!
1) Straighten the couch when you come up to bed.
2) Rinse out the sink after you wash dishes.

I would be SOOO much freaking happier!

Expat From Hell said...

Ah, the true cynic! However, you are also the true husband. Congratulations to you both. I, too, see the value (at 33 years betrothed) in the tokens - for me it was a recent batch of pasta fagioli. So simple, yet so meaningful. EFH

My Husband's Watching TV... said...

Hmm...where are is my sapphire bracelet??? I might have to have you talk to my husband for me...although I've heard after 2 years you are officially no longer newlyweds. Very funny post!

James (SeattleDad) said...

Hahahah. Yes, the similarities are scary.

Good stuff and happy anniversary.

Kell said...

I'm not married but thanks for showing me what I have to look forward to ;)

Candice said...

Happy anniversary!!

We try to be romantic each year, nice dinner, etc. However, we only do gift for bigger anniversaries #1, #5. Many years we go on vacation for our anniversary since it's July 5. :)

Angelia Sims Hardy said...

That's perfect!! Happy Anniversary! I think those tokens sound pretty good. :-)

kathryn said...

Well, what a great hubby you are! The real question is: What did lovely wifey get you??

And was it YOUR dog's poop, or someone else's? (I'm not sure why this matters...)

Jerry said...

Your list of tokens about sums it up. And like you, I wouldn't want to have it any other way.

Herding Cats said...

Awww, how sweet! Happy Anniversary!

Hilary said...

Too funny.. and too cute. Happy anniversary!

Slamdunk said...

Thank you for the thoughtful and funny comments all. I added this note to the post for clarification:

"After reading the comments, I wanted to clarify that though my anniversary was a few weeks ago, the above list of gifts is not entirely related to our anniversary. With the post, I wanted to show how our appreaciation of and desire for tokens of affection has changed over the years, and not to illustrate how I have become a cheap-skate with the Mrs.

Though it helps that we both are frugal folks."

@ Bob: Congrats to you all then.

@ ML: Now that is a great gift idea.

@ RD: Wow, I hope you all had a chance to make that up.

@ Kell: Just live large the first few years...I am kidding of course...

@ Kathryn: My gift was a card. I got her a few small things. And it was our new dog's bomb that she stepped in during the backyard clean-up-the-plants-and-shrubs-for-winter event we had on Saturday.

LisaF said...

Not quite to the 10+ gift yet, but our 30th was uneventful...in that I can't even remember what we did! :-/

Perhaps you'll like this: http://www.peripheralperceptions.org/2010/07/26/so-this-is-what-30-looks-like/

lifeshighway said...

Happy Anniversary and it only gets better. At 20, one or the other will forget or at our house we are so romantic that speaking of maybe we should do something counts as a great event.

ginzotech said...

I was married for 14 years before I became a widower. your experiences sound very much like mine. gonna take the again soon. whoohoo!

Tara said...

Haha. So true. I'm on year 18. Not sure how since I'm 28? It's insane. Must have gotten married when I was still in middle school ;)

carma said...

it's a good thing you clarified ;-) we are incredibly frugal too so I'd be embarrassed to list any gifts beyond our first year together...

WomanHonorThyself said...

Me scraping dog poop off of the Mrs. sneakers. ..lmbooo love that one...God bless ya both and hugssss!!!

aconnectiontomyheart said...

Aww, how romantic! ;) We are probably on a similar boat getting to where you are.. This summer we celebrated our 8th, so we are not very far from your prediction about the 7th year milestone.. However we are going on a date (Rush Rock Concert) this month, which is what we are looking forward to.. ;) When kids start dipping into our 'funds', it helps to be cheapos, or maybe there is no other way! Ha ha..

Tam said...

I absolutely love it! The fact that you all are still together & even though the tokens have changed, the fact that you're doing it together is what matters more than anything. Thanks for sharing, its inspiring. Someday we should all hope to be scraping dog poop :-D hee hee

Kristin said...

Kiddos come along and a rented dvd after they go to bed feels like heaven. Am I wrong?

Brian Miller said...

lol. my how the times change you...getting a spare minute together...that is a gift itself...smiles.

Stina Lindenblatt said...

Ours went the other way. We didn't do much in the beginning, especially since we already had a baby by our first anniversary (I'm just waiting for my son to figure out the math, which gets more complicated since he was 3 months premature). ;)

For our 10 anniversary my husband said I have a choice: expensive jewelry, camping for the weekend, or a weekend in San Francisco (without the kids). This was a no brainer, especially since I'm not into jewelry. :)

Congrats on making it to 13! :D

MONICA-LnP said...

haha at least you remeber your anniversary!

ocmist said...

Your "Update" was a good thought... We know how things do change as you get more and more comfortable with each other as Hubby and I just passed our 35th Anniversary. We took three of the corgis up to a Bed and Breakfast about an hour away.

Congratulations on the 13 years, and may your next 13 be even better! Grammy from Corgi Country

malone8 said...

Valentine's Day 2011 will be 35 yrs. for us.

Concentrate on the good — keeps marriage tender and loving.

All the best - Maxi

SuziCate said...

I'd welcome the hubby scraping the dog poop off my shoes any day! May you show her many more token of love throughout your marriage.

Rachel Cotterill said...

I've never much liked the feeling of obligation that comes with endless present exchanges... taking a walk together and holding hands is much more precious and romantic than anything money can buy :)

angelcel said...

So funny. So true!

mrs. fuzz said...

Hahaha! This is very funny. But also very true! Thanks for sharing this sweet little insight. And Happy Anniversary!